What do you want in life?  It’s an age old question, one which may ask and don’t the answer, or maybe don’t want the answer.

If we take some time to really think about what we want and focus on what we love, we could very easily answer the question of what we want. The problem is we get comfortable where we are at and choose not to push ourselves to more. We choose not to keep going harder and stronger.

But we can.  We can work our butts off and get so far.  It takes leaps of faith, it takes risk, and it takes hard work.

You want to land that dream job?  It takes sacrifice, night classes at your community college and working hard.

You want to get that body you’ve wanted?  It takes discipline, day after day hitting the gym whether you feel like it or not, saying no to junk food even when you want it.

You want that girl/guy?  Go all out, lay down your life, and don’t give up so easily.  Work hard.

Everything worth having takes work.  So work your butt off and get there.  No more excuses.

Simple Things


I’ve been away from home for over 6 months now. I miss them. I miss home. One thing I’ve really come to appreciate during this time of separation is the small things. It’s those little things that constantly fill my mind with memories. Those little things I get to hear and see that make it all worth it.

6 months ago my wife and prepared for this long temporary time apart. It was very hard saying goodbye, but we knew we’d be back together in 8 months. At the time it seemed incredibly long and now here we are with less than 2 to go. There’s been times when it’s not been easy, but it’s been worth it. We know it’s bringing us to a place that we want for our futures, and we will soon be reunited, and it will make that time together all the more sweeter.

It’s definitely given me a different perspective on a lot of things. It’s given me a much larger respect for those whose jobs take them away from their loved ones, much more respect for those who chase after their dreams, because it takes work.

You read about how people struggle to get through things, but you don’t really understand the struggle, you just focus on the outcome. The outcome is worth the fight. It’s worth the journey. But the journey does take work. It does take sacrifice, and it does take having some ugly days. That’s just part of the process. But those days will pass. They won’t last forever.

I say this as much to myself as to anyone reading this, because it’s something I have to remember. I know without a doubt it will be worth it. So whatever you are striving for, keep going and don’t stop. You will be glad you kept going.

The Naysayers Don’t Matter


You have dreams and burning passions inside you. They are yours. They are in you for a reason and are meant to be chased after.
   You don’t have to defend your dream, just go make it a reality. You were born for this.
   And the naysayers? They are just jealous.

Do What You Say


There is a lack that needs to be addressed and resolved. It’s the lack of follow through. I think most of us could agree on what types of things are right or wrong and at least have an understanding of what values are. At least in theory.

It’s time to stop saying things with only our words. It’s time we back up our arguments, our beliefs, and our statements with actions that are even bolder.

It can be easy to talk a big game from the safety of social media. There is no one staring you in the face, no friends around to influence you otherwise, no pretense to keep up.

But it is another matter when you are with your family or friends and something happens that tests your beliefs. You don’t really want to stand up for the things you truly believe, it would be easier to just go along with them, or to say nothing at all, the safe way out.

But we need to rise up. We need to go boldly forward with not words, but with actions. Living out our beliefs so that they can be seen.

You probably wouldn’t believe a teacher who was trying to make you believe a subject and he didn’t believe it himself.

So why would others believe us if we aren’t living out that belief?

Start showing and quit talking.

Stop Listening


Stop listening. That’s right. Stop listening to the doubters, the haters, the naysayers. Stop listening to society who says it’s okay to cheat. Its’ okay to lie. It’s okay to not take care of your body. It’s okay to not discipline your children. It’s okay to look at other women, okay to ignore real world problems. Okay to not step in when you see something wrong. Okay to look the other way.
Stop listening to all these lies, because they are nothing more than that. They are lies, and dangerous ones at that. Start listening to your gut, not what others are trying to shove down your throat. We all know what is truly right, and what is wrong. But that gray area in between seems to get larger and larger, until we no longer even see the right or wrong.
Stop listening to white lies and take charge. Take ownership of your life and the actions you choose and stop letting what is popular or what society deems as satisfactory rule your life, and step up and stop listening.

It’s At Your Fingertips


Literally the world is truly at your fingertips. We have so much opportunity in this world if we are willing to work hard for it. We can do anything we set our minds to .  We have the capability to learn whatever it is that we want to learn.

Is there that person you haven’t mustered up the courage to talk to?  Call them.  Why not?  Do you want to wonder ‘what if’ forever?

What about that country you’ve always wanted to go to?  Why not?  Get your passport, save some money and go.

Wondering if you could ever get your dream job?  Start finding out what it takes, and don’t stop at no.

Don’t lay down and give up the fight ever.  It’s at your fingertips.

Have you wanted to start that business?  Get a business plan together and go for it.

All great things take risk, they take chances, and they guts.  But you have all the necessary tools.  So go for it and take the plunge.  The world awaits.

You Shouldn’t


It’s really easy to judge. Really easy. I do it way too much. I’m very opionated so that comes out with thinking other people’s ways of doing things are less than my own sometimes. This theory is very flawed, and judging can lead down a very dark road. If you think about it, bullying is just severe judgement that has gotten so far that it comes out in hateful ways.

Judging is something that causes us to look down on other people. None of us have the right nor the authority to look down on anyone. Looking down on others causes us to begin to lose compassion for other people. We lose the ability to see the situation they are in, we lose the ability to empathize with them, and soon when we do that enough we become desensitized to the feelings of others.

This desensitization leads to us no longer caring what we say or think about another individual.

Another form of judging comes through comparison. Normally if we do something wrong we compare it with what someone else has done and we make ourselves feel better by telling ourselves what we did is not as bad as what someone else did. This quickly leads to judgement because again, all we are doing in this is saying we are better than someone else to make ourselves feel better.

So the next time you feel like judging, think about the slippery slope it leads down and steer clear of it. Replace judgement with a sense of compassion and ask yourself how you can relate to the person more rather than judge them.

Together For Better


Faithful….what does that word evoke? Does it make you think of someone who is religious? A devoted family member, parent, or spouse? Does it make you think of a trusted employee or boss?

I question a lot whether this word means anything anymore. It is disheartening to see all the unfaithfulness in the world. Particularly in relationships. Media has done an amazing job at creating a fantasy of what relationships look like. When people get into a real relationship they expect everything to go perfect, when it doesn’t they often feel they have the right to “look” elsewhere. This can come in the form of a full blown affair. Giving though to the idea of an affair, addictions to porn or romance novels, or to putting up walls and just being cold towards one another.

Relationships will try you. There is no doubt about it. It can often be the hardest thing you’ve ever faced….but at the same hand it is also the greatest, most wonderful thing that will ever happen to you.

Life is flawed, as such, people are flawed, when you bring two people together those flaws often clash and cause arguments. It’s not the end of the world. It simply takes being faithful and committed and working through whatever issues are present.

There is a reason that marriages are done with an oath in front of witnesses. That reason is because yes marriage is very hard, and there can be times when you question whether you made the right decision. Those oaths are for those challenging times to remind you that “for better or worse”. It doesn’t just say “for better”.

That being said when you are committed and faithful to your marriage and give it the priority it deserves, marriage can be amazing. The trust you build when you are both fully committed and engaged is unlike any other bond in this world. It is the only bond like it. That ability to be so close to not only your spouse, but to your best friend is worth more than anything.

Faithful….it takes being committed. Committed to excellence, committed to putting your spouse first, above what you want. Committed to staying faithful, not just physically, but mentally, and emotionally. Many think it’s okay to look at other men and women while you are married, many think it’s okay to lust after other guys or girls. Or to look at inappropriate images whether it be on computer, a TV screen, or whether it be words on a page. But I assure it’s not. Every one of those things is like playing with fire and is extremely dangerous to a marriage and can often burn it to the ground.

Stay committed, stay faithful. Nothing is more fulfilling when you do this. And it’s never too late to start.




This saying above fits a problem that I struggle with sometimes. There are times when I find myself in a conversation not truly listening to understand, but listening either.

A. to come up with a solution


B. I’m thinking of my response before the other person finishes.

Both of these habits are destructive to good communication.  They take the focus off the speaker and move it to ourselves.

Knowing this and practicing it however are two totally different things.  To truly understand it we really have to embrace empathy, which is us striving to really understand where the other person is coming from. Putting ourselves in their shoes.

It’s not a matter of me coming up with a solution, it’s not a matter of my opinion, it’s a matter of caring enough about the other person to just let them talk and have someone who genuinely wants to listen and care for them.

Be True





Have you ever felt like you have to prove yourself to someone else.  You feel as if they are controlling your life more than you are. Like they have some kind of say as to what is good enough and what isn’t?

Allowing others to control our decisions and actions can be very dangerous because in the process we lose ourselves. We lose our character, and what makes us unique.

Stay original, stay true to who you are.  We can take others viewpoints, and see if there is anything we can learn from it ,but we shouldn’t just take what others say at face value without questioning their motives or whether or not they are looking out for you or themselves.

Those who truly care about you will encourage you in your pursuits, and they will ask questions that make you think rather than degrade what you are doing.

So examine those around you and cut ties with friends who may try to bring you down.

Stay true to you.