What do you want more than anything? Is is a spouse? A dream job? A certain amount of money? To be a famous actor/athlete/singer? We all have deep rooted dreams, that we want to see happen, but we also let reality get in our way.
Reality tells us that we need to have a fall back plan in case our dream doesn’t come true. While this sounds logical and safe it’s a bad idea. Now before you go selling everything you have and moving to your dream city, take a few things into consideration. If you have a family then you have some responsibilities. Your family needs to eat, needs a roof over their head, and has needs. I’m not saying be irresponsible. What I am saying is don’t settle for second best.
Because when we have lots of backup plans, we tend to focus on them more than our main plan. We tend to take focus off our dream.
So don’t have a backup plan. Do whatever you have to, to keep pushing towards your goal. Your why is in you already, it’s been there all your life, you know what it is. So stop running from who you are and live it, scream it, and do it.
I’m sorry I haven’t posted every day like normal. I still haven’t gotten in a routine since being in active duty, and since being back to normal life. I’ve gotten somewhat settled back into my job and my balancing act between work, reservist life, and my family is starting to come together. My blog suffered a bit and I missed a week of blogging.
Now that I’ve begun to get settled, I’ve started to look towards the future. Towards my next goals, my next dreams, and the next step towards them. It’s somewhat of a never ending job but that’s good and that’s as it should be. We shouldn’t get content with where we are at. There is always more, always something else for us to achieve, whether it’s learning something we don’t know yet, or learning a new way of doing something.
Stay humble. There’s always someone who is better at what you are dong than you, don’t be afraid to learn from them, and ask questions. Grow, strive, and take more risk, more leaps of faith. You’ve got this.
So it’s been over a week since I’ve posted,far too long, and I apologize for my absence. I got back home on Wednesday and am now reunited with my wife and daughter. Eight months of living 9 months apart is over as I trained in the military. Instead of seeing my family only through Skype I get to see them and be with them each day.
I am not going to lie while I was away it was painful. We had strains and we had bad days both me and my wife. It’s rough living apart for that long.
But it’s over. Eight months ago it seemed like this day would never come. When I left home in January it seemed like September was years away.
Two things I realized through this experience. One is that pain is temporary. Yes it sucked some days, but all in all, it’s a very short time and flew by and the benefits and reward will far outweigh the short amount of time we both sacrificed in order for me to go through this life changing experience.
If you are debating making a tough decision just remember it is temporary, it will pass, and you should go for it. Don’t live with regrets and should haves.
Sometimes taking a new step can be scary. Eight months ago I left home, left my wife and daughter in order to pursue something that would better all of us. It’s been difficult. Being away for that long from my family is not the easiest on either me or my family. But we knew it was what was best.
Both my wife and I believe in going hard after your dreams, going boldly towards things that many just talk about.
While that sounds awesome, the truth is that often when we take steps towards dreams and goals, it’s not a pretty journey. Sometimes the way is paved with thorns, and mountains that seem to climb without ceasing.
We are nearing the end of our time apart, with just over a week to go. It’s been a long journey, and a tough one, but looking back, we wouldn’t do it any different. We would still chase our dreams, and strive to go after things that seem bigger than ourselves. I cannot wait to be reunited with them.
Eight months ago it seemed like this approaching day was out of sight, and now it’s within reach. It was eight months that were very hard, but at the same time, if we hadn’t chosen this, we would both question forever if I had missed an opportunity. Neither of us want to live a life of question or doubt. And so with this chapter done, I head home soon, and begin a brand new one.
Chase your dreams. Go after them. The journey can suck sometimes, but it’s worth it in the end.
Thirties can be a dreaded time by some. For some it’s the first time you feel like an adult, for others it feels like accomplishing your dreams are over. For some it means the wild days are over and it’s time to live a normal life.
First let me tell you what 30’s is not then we’ll talk about what it is.
30 is not the end. 30 is not the time to sit on the couch watching football in your suburbia house with your 2.5 kids.
30 is not the time to stop exploring and stop being adventurous.
30 is not the time to quit dreaming.
30 is not the time when your kids are your sole goal in life.
30 is not the time when pinterest crafts and decorating your home to look like something out of a magazine should be your goal.
If anything your 30’s should be a time to live life even more bolder than before. Your kids are at an age where they need to see their parents going out and making the world a better place and building their dreams and their parents saying to them “dreams take risk, watch and don’t be afraid”.
If you are in your thirties now is the best time to get in shape, to build your busineas, to go back to school, to work hard for your dreams. You have more confidence under your belt more experience, more motivation.
So many people use their family, job, or age as As a crutch to keep them from truly living. It’s an excuse that keeps us lazy and complacent.
Your family should be a propellant to make you want to be more for them and so that your kids will grow up seeing what it truly means to live to the fullest.
So stop being depressed, stop playing fantasy football and fussing over coffee for hours to no end.
Get out there and make something of your life. Build your future, do the things you were meant to do to make this place better for you and your family and those who will follow you.
Opportunity is always there it’s just a matter of you beating down the door to get it.
I’m now in my 30’s and I have never been in better physical shape. I can run circles around some 20 year olds in the gym. On the other hand I see guys older than me who are in even better shape than I am and it inspires me. I am constantly setting new goals and higher standards, and I don’t expect that will ever change, because I know I can always be more.
Age has really become a crutch in our society. We think that because we are in our 20’s that life is just about sleeping around and partying or that when we are in our 30’s we should just make money have 2.5 kids and watch sports. When we hit 50 we think it’s okay yo abandoned reason for affairs or over priced cars. It’s really outrageous when you think about it.
The truth is regardless of your age you should be fighting for something larger than yourself, striving for more. Don’t say when you are young “I’ll get on shape when I’m older”. And if you are older don’t think it’s too late to get in shape.
Drop the excuses, and instead drop kick the door of opportunity and march in.
People have lots of excuses. Christians like to use the one that says “it’s not right timing” and “God hasn’t opened the door”.
Parents tend to use the excuse “I have kids and don’t have time”.
There are a million others “I don’t have the money”. “Now’s not good timing”. “I will next year”, “I will someday”. “If I was younger”.
Everyone has a plausible excuse in their own mind. But that’s all it is, a very lame excuse.
It amazed me the things people use as excuses just to put something off. I know because I’ve been there myself. But I realized excuses are just lies we believe and time wasters.
You are never going to be at a perfect place, never going to have the perfect amount of money. You can’t go back or forward in time. And God isn’t waiting to “open a door”. He’s waiting for you to bust down the door.
The world needs action not excuses. Your kids need examples of what it means to go out and conquer fears and dreams.
You want a different life? The only way you will get it is by working hard and making decisions that bring risk and fear. But that’s a good thing. Overcome, bust down the door and rock it.
If you have a dream in life you have to go out and get it. It’s not gonna fall in your lap. It’s not going to magically show up in front of you as you drive to work. You won’t be walking down the road and door won’t drop in front of you. A voice isn’t gonna thunder from the sky and tell you exactly what to do.
You have to dream it, climb it, build it, and work for it. You have to sweat, you have to go through pain, go through hurt, and go through trials.
You have to work to achieve greatness, you have to work to achieve your dream. Nothing in life ever comes without hard work. Do your part and don’t give up at the first sight of trouble. You weren’t meant to live an average life, you weren’t meant to sit and do nothing. You weren’t meant to drown yourself in worthless fads, but to live fully and change the things around you.
I’ve been away from home for over 6 months now. I miss them. I miss home. One thing I’ve really come to appreciate during this time of separation is the small things. It’s those little things that constantly fill my mind with memories. Those little things I get to hear and see that make it all worth it.
6 months ago my wife and prepared for this long temporary time apart. It was very hard saying goodbye, but we knew we’d be back together in 8 months. At the time it seemed incredibly long and now here we are with less than 2 to go. There’s been times when it’s not been easy, but it’s been worth it. We know it’s bringing us to a place that we want for our futures, and we will soon be reunited, and it will make that time together all the more sweeter.
It’s definitely given me a different perspective on a lot of things. It’s given me a much larger respect for those whose jobs take them away from their loved ones, much more respect for those who chase after their dreams, because it takes work.
You read about how people struggle to get through things, but you don’t really understand the struggle, you just focus on the outcome. The outcome is worth the fight. It’s worth the journey. But the journey does take work. It does take sacrifice, and it does take having some ugly days. That’s just part of the process. But those days will pass. They won’t last forever.
I say this as much to myself as to anyone reading this, because it’s something I have to remember. I know without a doubt it will be worth it. So whatever you are striving for, keep going and don’t stop. You will be glad you kept going.
I confess I can be a very selfish person sometimes. I can get my head so wrapped around my own issues and I lose sight of the bigger things in the world. I get so caught up in striving for my gain and I lose sight of those who need me to stop striving and to stop and help.
If there is one thing needed it’s kindness. It’s self sacrifice. It’s caring enough to stop and help.
It’s taking the time to look up from my screen and see the world around me. Taking a step back and looking at what is around me. Because I all too often miss it. Not just overlook it, but miss it completely.
I forget there are kids who will go to bed hungry tonight, or scared of what may happen to them while they sleep.
I forget that somewhere a man doesn’t know where his family’s next meal will come from. I forget that someone is contemplating living because they can’t remember the last time someone was kind to them.
Simple things. Simple things that I so often overlook.