Stop Listening

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Stop listening. That’s right. Stop listening to the doubters, the haters, the naysayers. Stop listening to society who says it’s okay to cheat. Its’ okay to lie. It’s okay to not take care of your body. It’s okay to not discipline your children. It’s okay to look at other women, okay to ignore real world problems. Okay to not step in when you see something wrong. Okay to look the other way.
Stop listening to all these lies, because they are nothing more than that. They are lies, and dangerous ones at that. Start listening to your gut, not what others are trying to shove down your throat. We all know what is truly right, and what is wrong. But that gray area in between seems to get larger and larger, until we no longer even see the right or wrong.
Stop listening to white lies and take charge. Take ownership of your life and the actions you choose and stop letting what is popular or what society deems as satisfactory rule your life, and step up and stop listening.

It’s At Your Fingertips

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Literally the world is truly at your fingertips. We have so much opportunity in this world if we are willing to work hard for it. We can do anything we set our minds to .  We have the capability to learn whatever it is that we want to learn.

Is there that person you haven’t mustered up the courage to talk to?  Call them.  Why not?  Do you want to wonder ‘what if’ forever?

What about that country you’ve always wanted to go to?  Why not?  Get your passport, save some money and go.

Wondering if you could ever get your dream job?  Start finding out what it takes, and don’t stop at no.

Don’t lay down and give up the fight ever.  It’s at your fingertips.

Have you wanted to start that business?  Get a business plan together and go for it.

All great things take risk, they take chances, and they guts.  But you have all the necessary tools.  So go for it and take the plunge.  The world awaits.

You Shouldn’t

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It’s really easy to judge. Really easy. I do it way too much. I’m very opionated so that comes out with thinking other people’s ways of doing things are less than my own sometimes. This theory is very flawed, and judging can lead down a very dark road. If you think about it, bullying is just severe judgement that has gotten so far that it comes out in hateful ways.

Judging is something that causes us to look down on other people. None of us have the right nor the authority to look down on anyone. Looking down on others causes us to begin to lose compassion for other people. We lose the ability to see the situation they are in, we lose the ability to empathize with them, and soon when we do that enough we become desensitized to the feelings of others.

This desensitization leads to us no longer caring what we say or think about another individual.

Another form of judging comes through comparison. Normally if we do something wrong we compare it with what someone else has done and we make ourselves feel better by telling ourselves what we did is not as bad as what someone else did. This quickly leads to judgement because again, all we are doing in this is saying we are better than someone else to make ourselves feel better.

So the next time you feel like judging, think about the slippery slope it leads down and steer clear of it. Replace judgement with a sense of compassion and ask yourself how you can relate to the person more rather than judge them.

Be True

 

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Have you ever felt like you have to prove yourself to someone else.  You feel as if they are controlling your life more than you are. Like they have some kind of say as to what is good enough and what isn’t?

Allowing others to control our decisions and actions can be very dangerous because in the process we lose ourselves. We lose our character, and what makes us unique.

Stay original, stay true to who you are.  We can take others viewpoints, and see if there is anything we can learn from it ,but we shouldn’t just take what others say at face value without questioning their motives or whether or not they are looking out for you or themselves.

Those who truly care about you will encourage you in your pursuits, and they will ask questions that make you think rather than degrade what you are doing.

So examine those around you and cut ties with friends who may try to bring you down.

Stay true to you.

Make It Count

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Every day matters. Every minute matters. I know this is a hard concept to grasp.  It is for me I know.

But every minute does matter. Now I know we have responsibilities and things we have to do. We have to provide for our families, get our education and so forth.

But our attitude and our actions can all either propel us towards making a difference or it can keep us stuck.

We have to see what difference we can make in our every day life.  How can you impact your family?  How can you impact your coworkers or your customers?  How can you impact your class-mates?

There is a way that you can make a difference in everyone’s life you come in contact with.  It may be as simple as asking questions, or maybe it consists of lending a helping hand to someone you know is in need.

Regardless of what it is, change your perspective, change your attitude and look for ways to make a difference all around you.

Those seemingly little things are not little and will lead you to making a bigger difference.

Challenge Each Other

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I have a tendency to struggle with friendships.  The reason is I don’t easily allow myself to get close to people.  It’s an issue I have that I am trying to get over. One of those things where you get hurt when you are younger and so you think the best thing is just to not care anymore.

But that’s the worst thing.  It’s taken me awhile but I am realizing the importance and value of friends.  The Bible states that iron sharpens iron, and so it should be in friendship.

Now there are definitely times when you need to cut out certain friends because they are influencing you in a way you don’t need to be influenced.

But quality friends should encourage one another, should challenge each other. Should ask the tough questions.

Even Jesus had his close 12 friends. He confided in them, challenged them, and encouraged them.

So if you are afraid like me of friendship, don’t be. Healthy friends can really help grow you as a person.

 

Love…What Is it?

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As we approach another valentines day love is in the air, or at least in the advertisements.  Whether you are a hopeless romantic or don’t believe in love, chances are you are being bombarded with the million ads and stereotypical shoulds and shouldn’ts.

But one thing we often fail to see is what love actually is.  It’s not flowers, it’s not sappy feelings, or even physical attraction.

You see, there are certain feelings and attraction that draw people together, but inevitable those things fade with time.  It’s a normal part of life that the emotional high will hit an all time low.  It happens….but that is not the end of the story.

In fact, it’s just the beginning.  Love is an interesting thing.  There is a reason on your wedding day you stand and make a covenant before God and other people. Why? You already know you love the person right?

You make that commitment because when you do hit those times that are “for worse,” and “in sickness” love is not a feeling anymore, it’s a decision, those vows help us to remember that.

There are times in your relationship you won’t feel like loving who you are with.  There will be things that you do to each other to hurt each other, unintentional as they may be, they will still hurt.

But choose to love.  Through the good, and through the bad.  Through the smooth days, and the lightning storms.  You will find that by choosing to love, even when it is really hard, you will become closer and even more in love.

Love is sacrificial, it’s not all about you. It’s not about feeling good all the time. Sometimes you will feel like crap, but still strive to love.  It’s not about you, make the other person feel like they are the only person in the world.  Regardless of whether it is easy.

Remember that no one is perfect, think of the screw ups you have done.  Offer grace.

I think one of the biggest pitfalls we get into is thinking that we would just be happy if we were with someone else.  Then we find that once we are with that person, we are back to being miserable again.  This is because the problem isn’t someone else, the problem is in ourselves.  We have a lot of selfishness and wants that in order to experience true and lasting love, we have to let go of our wants sometimes.

Love may not always be fireworks like the media and advertisements may try to fool you into thinking, but it can be more rewarding than anything you’ve ever known.

Freedom

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Freedom is something that can be hard to obtain. While there can be people or circumstances that can leave us feeling trapped or held down, we are often our own worst enemy at restricting ourselves.  We tend to hold on to past hurts until it leads to fear that keeps us from acting, or to anger which makes us just unhappy in general.

We have to realize that when it comes to being free and moving on with our lives and living to the fullest.

Something I’ve found in my own life is how much of a snare it can be to live in your past or hold onto it.  You’ve got to let it go and start living in freedom.

It’s okay to realize you are holding onto things that are keeping you from being free.  But also realize you have to let them go.  Be free.

Some Days Are Hard

 

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If you live on this earth, you have bad days.   We all do.  I know I do.  There are days when I sometimes feel blah.  I feel disappointment, frustration,and like I am so far behind in the game.

I know it will pass, I  know I will be over the issues I am dealing with tomorrow, but that still doesn’t really help today.

I guess the biggest thing I can do today is try not to focus on the things that are hard, try not to focus on the difficult things in my life.  But rather focus on what is to come, the good things to come.

It’s easy to get caught up in wishing things were different, but life is what it is sometimes, and there are some things that are just outside of our control, and as much as we wish they were different, they aren’t, so we have to make the best of it and choose joy.

If you are having a crappy day, know it will pass.

Don’t Rely On Others

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It’s a fragile balance, knowing the need for other people in your life, while not relying on them to make it through your day.  When we put all our stock in someone they will undoubtedly let us down.  It’s inevitable, we are human and we suck sometimes.

But we are also great sometimes, and relationships can push us to be better spouses, children, parents, siblings, friends, bosses, employees, and better people.

We should look for the good in our relationships the things that we both offer each other and can give one another, but we also should keep in mind the need for our strength in solitude.  It is key to know that on our own we can be strong, we can be enough.

But we can also take satisfaction that our relationships can also bring additional value and strength.

Both strength in solitude and strength from relationships is good, just be sure your strength in yourself is enough to support you, and you aren’t relying on someone else for that.