A Mindset?


What does it take to be successful?  What does it take to be able to repeatedly do something every day whether you feel like it or not?  Is it just great physical prowess?  Is it genes?  Is it having more time than other people?

It’s a mindset.  If you read any books, or watch any documentaries on what sets apart those who really become successful from others it’s a mindset.  It’s a mindset, that nothing will deter them.

This is why things like continually going to the gym can be so hard.  We don’t see immediate progress, and so we quit coming up with a million excuses.  But what makes you successful in anything you do, gym or otherwise, is a mindset that regardless of what happens you are in it for the long haul.  It’s getting your head in the game, as much as your body.

Success in many terms is more a part of if you believe you are going to be than anything else.

So stay positive, whether you are trying to get in better shape, start a business, or set new goals, go all in and go big.

This video gets me pumped when I’m questioning or doubting myself. Why Do We Fall



Taken For Granted?


Have you ever wished you had more opportunity?  More opportunity with education, with your job, with your dreams and goals?  More opportunity with friends, or to work out.

Truthfully, we don’t have to wish.  We live in a day and age where with a little hard work, we are truly able to get and do anything we have a mind to.

So why are so many of us left asking why.  Left scratching our heads thinking, “if only…”

We live in a world where almost endless information is only a mouse click away.  Want to learn how to rebuild an engine, bet you can find it online, need some inspiration, read it online.  We have so much more access than those living only a couple generations ago did not have.

So don’t get stuck thinking there is no opportunity.    The opportunity is all around you, you just have to look for it.  Sometimes you even have to build a door, and walk through it so you can see it, but it is there. Go out and get it.

Give Fear the Backseat

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Growing up I had a butt load of fear. I was afraid of everything.  Afraid of what people though, afraid of messing up, afraid of not being adequate enough, either for other people or my own self expectations.

A lot of the fear I had was placed on me by myself, but I also had a hefty dose placed on me by others.

I’ve overcome a lot of the fear, I don’t expect quite so much out of myself (though I still tend to be extremely driven), and I don’t worry so much about what people thing about me (my wife says I don’t care enough).

So what changed?  What changed my life from being hidden behind 4 walls, anti-social, and a nervous small person to becoming someone who loves being around people.  What took away my nervousness and turned me into a confident (sometimes too much so) person?

It wasn’t some 5 step plan, wasn’t some quick fix answer.  It was making choices.  I came to a place where I literally asked myself if I wanted to continue to live my life in this state of fear.

And so I made a choice, I moved out of state chasing a dream and a hope that I had no idea if it would work.  That was my first choice.  It got me outside my comfort zone, outside of my box, and from there it was simply one choice after another.  It was choosing to go outside my comfort zone and meet new people.  It was going out of my comfort zone and going to college, it was traveling to other countries, it was joining the military, it was having a child and not wanting her to grow up with fear but rather with a picture of her parents tackling anything.

That’s it.  No fancy recipe.  Make choices.  Sure those choices aren’t easy, and you will get knots in your stomach when you make them, but make them anyway.  Everyone you make will get easier, and soon you will find fear has no place anymore.

Get out, explore, have adventures, travel (this one is huge, if you can travel to another country do so) it gives you perspective on how big the world is and how much more there is to learn.

Fear is a joke, slap it around and show it who’s boss.  You’ve got this.



Quit Excusing It


If there’s one thing we are great at coming up with, it’s excuses.  Not enough time, I have kids, work is stressful, I’m too old, I’m too young, I don’t have enough experience.

Almost everything we want to do in life we start coming up with reasons right away about why we shouldn’t. 

There is nothing in life that is worth pursuing that doesn’t come with a price. You want that dream job? It will cost you. You want a better body? It will cost you.  Good things do not come easy. They do take work. But they are worth it.

I’ve been working out for a long time and I can find myself getting comfortable with my workouts. In addition I stop getting better. Life is like this we strive for the best and instead we hit mediocre and begin to coast because it’s easy, but nothing ever gets better. 

Just like in the gym and with diet I have to continually push myself to be better and try new things, otherwise I stay stagnant.

So stop the excuses of why you can’t, stop setting for the easy way. Go all in, kick butt and do the best you can.

Don’t Stop


There’s usually a point when chasing something that you wonder if it’s worth it?  I’ve felt it, after all, if you are pursuing your dream it is inevitable that sometimes progress will be very slow. Things you’ve built up to will seem like they are not aiding you in getting any further and you may even begin to question if you made a mistake.

I have felt this, I feel this at times.  It’s not something I like necessary but something I have to get through personally.

So how do you get through days like that?

1. Remember how far you’ve come.  Life swallows us up and we can forget how much progress we’ve actually made.

2. Push forward. Even when you see no results, keep going.  Results cannot always be seen till much further down the road.

3. Stay positive, whether this involves you sitting down writing some dreams with a cup of coffee or tea, going for a gym workout and sorting out some thoughts, or taking a walk, take some quiet time away from social media to really remember why you started, and why you want what you are chasing.

You can make it, don’t give up.

If It’s Not Hurting….


I’m on my way to hitting my end of year goal for my weight/muscle mass.  I still have a hard month and a half to go.  Sometimes I get tired, between work, my reserve duty, my family, and my side projects I feel like I have no time for the gym.  And in reality, sure I don’t.  Nobody has time for the gym when you really think about it.

But it’s a matter of making time.  Sure after a long crappy day at work I would love to just take a hot shower and chill, but the gym is calling, and I know if I don’t go I’ll really feel like crap the next day.

So don’t ask if you have time for the gym, because, no you don’t, but you have to make time for it.

The workout process is slow, it can be frustrating, you often won’t have a workout buddy, you often will be in pain, you often will have a million things you need to do.  Do it anyway.

The benefits of fitness are innumerable, not only do you feel and look better, but you are more prepared mentally for the challenges life throws at you.  Eat right, exercise.  Whether you love cross-fit, lifting, running, cycling, whatever it is, go all in.  Don’t dip your toes in just a little.  Dive in completely.  Go for the very best version of yourself.  You won’t be sorry.

Adventure is….out there?


I like adventure.  I like it a lot, and sometimes that scares me.  It scares me to think I may never get a huge adventure.  I mean, why do we love adventurous movies if not to live vicariously through the characters?

Life goes by at a furious pace.  Work, college, and the sort keep us super busy, just struggling some weeks to make it to the weekend.  I understand this isn’t the right way to live life.  Life shouldn’t be lived for the weekend, our week, our work, our studies should bring us life.  For me I guess I’m still in progress, because I’m not there yet.  I have moments of adventure for sure, and for those I am extremely grateful.

So the only thing for it is to press on, to dig deeper, work harder, and keep going until those dreams, those adventures are a reality.  Are an every day occurrence.

Paulo Coelho says it really well: “one day you will wake up and there won’t be any more time to do the things you’ve always wanted. Do it now.”

That then is my goal.

The Wait


So what do you do when you reach that point where you’ve done almost everything you can and are playing the waiting game.  The ball was passed to you, you did the best you could, and passed it back, now you wait.

For me I hate waiting, it feels like I’m being sucker punched.  I like doing things that need to be done now, and not putting them off.  Call it diligence, call it OCD, I’m not sure, but that’s the way I am.

It can be easy to get depressed when your waiting, I know because I’m going through this waiting game right now, as I wait to hear back from some job opportunities.  It’s frustrating to not know what will happen, but at the same time it’s necessary, it’s part of the process, as frustrating as it may be.  And so I wait, and keep striving forward.  It’s worth it to do what you love.

Making The Cut


So last night on the voice, many contestants went home.  Their long journey of giving up on jobs, college, school, and other activities in the hope of making it are over, while some others move forward still holding onto that dream.

So is it truly over for them?  Do they go back to their normal lives, defeated with despair?

The tears, the despair on some of their faces.  Life can be like this, we charge ahead thinking we are on the right path and are going to make it, then are blind-sided by an unexpected halt.  Sometimes these unexpected halts are not bad things, we find out our spouse is pregnant, we get a job transfer, layoff, or promotion.  All really good things, but that can unexpectedly cause our lives to go in a different direction.

When these things happen we have two options, we go in the new direction and ignore the other, or we find ways to make both work.  Will it be harder to move on now?  Absolutely.  New obstacles cause our dreams to get even harder.

Seeing voice contestants go home really makes me wonder, what they will do.   Will they give up, or will it cause them to push even harder, and go farther than anyone ever imagined.

Regardless of what comes in life to try to stop you, keep going.  Don’t let disappointment stop you, because regardless of what you do you will face it, but it’s not the end, it’s not the final statement.  I wish the best for those who didn’t make it.  If you are struggling with feeling like you are not making it, or have met with all the resistance you can take, please, keep going.  You can make it.  It may not be the way you think to the end goal, but get creative, don’t take rejection and prove the critics wrong.

You’ve got this.

What Do You Want More Than Anything?


What do you want more than anything?  Is is a spouse?  A dream job?  A certain amount of money?  To be a famous actor/athlete/singer?  We all have deep rooted dreams, that we want to see happen, but we also let reality get in our way.

Reality tells us that we need to have a fall back plan in case our dream doesn’t come true.  While this sounds logical and safe it’s a bad idea.  Now before you go selling everything you have and moving to your dream city, take a few things into consideration.  If you have a family then you have some responsibilities.  Your family needs to eat, needs a roof over their head, and has needs.  I’m not saying be irresponsible.  What I am saying is don’t settle for second best.

Because when we have lots of backup plans, we tend to focus on them more than our main plan.  We tend to take focus off our dream.

So don’t have a backup plan. Do whatever you have to, to keep pushing towards your goal.  Your why is in you already, it’s been there all your life, you know what it is.  So stop running from who you are and live it, scream it, and do it.