What does it mean to lead your children? Is it having it all together? Is it being able to provide every wish and desire? Is it making all the right decisions?
While leadership consists of many factors, the above are not the answers when it comes to leading your kids.
Kids need direction. Psalms talks about children being arrows in the hands of a warrior. What are arrows designed for? They are meant for war, they are placed on a bow string and flung into the distance to strike fear in the hearts of enemies.
I have my child for 18 year or so. And in that time she has to learn how to live life. She won’t hit 18 and have all the answers of life, but I have to provide her with the knowledge of how to find the answers for herself. How do I do this? Well how do kids learn?
My daughter is two and she mimics everything. I can sing a song and dance like a crazy man around the room, and she will do her best to dance just like me. Why? That’s how she learns. I can’t sit in a chair and tell her to dance silly around the room, just doesn’t work that way.
I have had many argue with me and question whether I or my wife do to much now that we have a child. The answer, no. I don’t think we do. Between the two of us, we have a full time job, a self-owned business, both are college full time, we both blog, we travel constantly, and much more. We fight for our marriage which includes making sure we have alone time together to build that relationship.
So what do I want to impart to her? I want her to know she should life to the fullest. Life doesn’t consist of watching tv all day, or playing games in a fantasy world all day. It consists of getting out in the world, chasing your dreams, your goals, your passion full heartedly especially when it’s hard and you are tired and worn out.
The best way I can teach her that is through my own actions and chasing after those things myself. And I can rest assured that she is watching. She is learning how to fly on her own. How to make a difference in her world, how to serve.