I recently came across an article on Huffington Post which in a nutshell said how dating and time with your spouse was never the same after having kids. While there is nothing wrong with doing lots of things with your children, there are times when you need to do things without them, but let me explain.
I love my daughter with all my heart, she is my pride and joy, and love getting to spend time with her. Because I love her so much, I realize it is very important to make time for my wife and I to spend alone, date nights, one on one, without our daughter. A getaway now and then by ourselves is also so important.
You see as parents it’s our job to teach our kids how to have good character, good morals, and a healthy outlook on life. If I don’t model a good relationship in my marriage, that is like teaching her that bad moral values are okay.
I want my daughter to grow up knowing that her parents care enough about each other to value each other, and to spend time together. I want to teach her that mommy and daddy need alone time sometimes so that we can be a stronger family, with firm relationships. I want her to know that our wedding anniversary is a special event that should be held dear.
As a teenager I want her to secretly be glad that she knows her mom and dad love each other enough to still go on dates, even if it may gross her out a little, someday she will look back on that and smile.
By making time for my marriage, I am helping to build a picture of what she should look for in a man. If she never sees me “dating” her mother, how will she know what healthy dating looks like? How will she know the balance of having her own marriage and her own children someday if she doesn’t learn it from me and her mother.
My faith is very important to me, and nothing can replace prayer or alone time with God. In the same way nothing can replace alone time with my wife. That doesn’t mean all other aspects aren’t good. They are. But so is alone time. Kids should not be an excuse to never date your spouse anymore, if anything they should be an excuse to continue it all the more.