Starting Again



Have you ever gotten down?  Failed miserably at something, or feel like something is going to fail?  It sucks, plain and simple.  You feel like you’ve worked incredibly hard at something and yet it still slipped through your fingers.

It happens.  It’s life.

We’ve probably all heard the saying if you fall off a bike or a horse the best thing is to get right back up and keep going.   This is true when we feel like we’ve failed.

It’s easy to sit in our pity, or moan about how hard we have it since we hit rock bottom, but it’s vital that at this point we get back up and start living again, start over.  Think of all the knowledge and new wisdom you will have, think of all you learned whether it was what not to do or what did work great.

You can start over, and it can be better than what you ever imagined.  Get going.

Digging Deep


Digging down into our personal lives hurts sometimes. It’s never easy to allow the crap that’s buried inside to come surfacing out.  We’d rather keep it locked away, we’d rather not talk about it, we’d rather lead everyone to believe that it doesn’t exist.

But it is there, down deep, where years of hiding, and forgetting has covered it up.  Like a dusty old box buried in the attic or basement.

When we start to uncover and start to pull the cobwebs off it hurts, like peeling a scab.  But there is good that come of it.  When we are honest with ourselves and with those around us about our mistakes, or about our mess-ups, it brings relief and freedom.

When we do this, if the people we open up to shun us, or turn their backs on us, they probably don’t need to be in your life.

It’s not worth hiding things.  Dig deep and get it out.  You’ll be glad you did.

Who Likes Conflict?


I doubt many people would say they enjoy conflict.  In fact most people I’ve heard hate it.  Why is this?

We pay millions of dollars every year to go see blockbuster movies that are all based around some type of conflict.  We are enamored by TV shows that deal with what?  That’s right: conflict.

I know I hate conflict.  And I’m starting to ask myself why?

Shouldn’t I appreciate it?  Shouldn’t I look at it as an opportunity to also come to a resolution?

No conflict is not always pretty, it’s often ugly, it’s the furthest thing from glamorous. But if I simply change my thinking and my mindset on the cause and effect of conflict, will I begin to view it differently and respond to it differently?

I’m not 100% sure, but I am interested in finding out.

Expect The Unexpected





We often have a huge fear of the unexpected…..what if this happens?…….what if this goes wrong?……what if it goes right?…..

We worry needlessly.  I’ve heard it said that most of the things that cause us the most fear never even happen.

So why do we fear the unexpected?  Think about it… many things have happened in your life that were unexpected and looking back you are glad they happened?  Something a friend did for you?  An unexpected surprise from your spouse?  Often time unexpected things cause us happiness not grief.

Now I’m not saying bad unexpected events never happen, they do.  But we can’t live our lives holding on to what “might happen”.  Embrace the unexpected, look for it, become it’s friend, and you just might find yourself a happier person for it.

Manic Monday!


For a lot of people Monday can be a dreaded day. Some of us have jobs we don’t really like, or the week just holds things we would rather not face.  It’s easy when Monday hits to lose the momentum, carefree spirit, and happiness that we had over the weekend.

I struggle with this some weeks (of course Tuesdays are my Mondays, but same dif).

It’s really important throughout our week of ups and downs to maintain focus.  It’s really easy to come home from work and be drained, whether it is physical, mental, or both.

Keep your mind in a good place though.  Instead of waiting to punch out so you can veg, look forward to punching out so that you can devote time to your dreams and goals.

Most of us have some free time during our workday, even if it’s just a break or our lunch hour.  Use this time to write down your goals, dreams, passions, brainstorm ideas for how to achieve them.

Work may be hard, but you can remain positive and stay on track for what your future goals are. Keep at it.  You will get there!




Long Week

hard work

The week is finally over for me.  I don’t know why, but this week has been incredibly long. One of those weeks you are glad is over.  I don’t even fully know why.  Regardless though I am content now to be sitting drinking some coffee, and catching up on some social media and writing.

My wife is busy studying (grad school fun), and my daughter is trying to figure out how to put on her mommy’s shoes while watching Mary Poppins, her 2nd favorite movie (2nd only to The Sound Of Music, she has a thing for Julie Andrews).

Honestly I feel a little lazy today, and despite working on some taxes for my wife’s business and reworking our budget, I am not doing much at all today.

The crazy thing….that’s okay.  We all need some downtime every now and then.  It won’t last long.  Tomorrow I will be going a mile a minute, and hitting the gym harder than ever, but for now.  I am enjoying the stillness.

The Hard Days


Have you ever had one of those days where you wish you could hide in bed all day? Sooner or later we all have one of those days.  We don’t really feel like going to work at the crack of dawn, we’re tired of our diet, or our exercise program.  We feel worn out, tired.

There’s one thing that really helps on days like this.  My wife and daughter.  Somehow they are more than enough motivation to be strong another day.  To work hard, to do my best to be honorable.

Sure that doesn’t mean every day I have it all together.  In fact rarely if ever is life all together.  Each day has its challenges, its hardships, its battles we must fight.

Don’t be afraid to be weak some days.  It happens.  Sometimes you do need to come home and take a nap, sometimes you do need a break and just rent a movie and chill with your friends, your loved one, or your spouse.

In fact it’s these simple pleasures that we find in those we love that make the hard days worth it.

When The Rush Fades


Whenever we start something new there’s a thrill and rush to it.  We dive in head first, and throw ourselves into without even thinking.  We talk it up big with our friends and family, post statuses and brag a little bit.  But then as with most things, we start to lose focus, start to lose our spark to keep on working, and keep on moving forward.

It’s critical though when you feel like this to dig in all the deeper, remember why you started in the first place.  Set goals, always set new goals.  Any time you start to get complacent you need to push yourself harder.

I know…this is easier said than done, the last thing you want to do is work harder towards something when you are at a point when you want to quit.

Don’t quit.  Your hard work will pay off.  Maybe not as soon as you would like, but it will.  Tell yourself everyday you are not a quitter, you can and will endure.

Gym Kicking Your Butt?


Have you ever been exhausted from a workout? I know this last week I have been.  I’ve been working out for awhile now, years.  And yet I’ve been more sore and tired this last week in the gym than I can remember.

Even in the gym it’s easy to get comfortable, you get in a routine and you stop pushing yourself.  You stop trying as hard.  Your muscles get used to your workout and it’s just not as hard anymore.

I hit that point, and I realized I didn’t want to be there.  I’ve been using a new program that is pushing me, stretching me to my limits.  Every day it seems a new muscle group is hurting.  Muscles I’ve worked out for years.

But it is a good pain, it lets me know I’m pushing my limits.

All of life should be like that.  All our limits should be pushed.  We should never settle, never get comfortable. Always ask yourself “what can I do to stretch myself more”.  Never stop asking that in all areas of life.  The discomfort just means growth.  Keep going.

Active Rest


Today is my “active rest” day.  That means I don’t do heavy weights, but something to stay active, yet rest my muscles, like running, cycling, swimming etc. I love the idea of active rest.

A lot of times when I think of the word rest I think of sitting watching episodes of The Office, or reading.

While those are good things, active rest is really good too.  It does just what it says, it keeps you active, but rests specific muscle groups.

Stay active and don’t stop.  Even on your off days.  There is always more to achieve.