Lending A Hand


It’s really easy to become self-absorbed.  Really easy.  We make it easy in this day and age.  There are slogans, videos, and all kinds of tips on how to become better, more successful, more well known etc.

There are some good things to this, it can push us to better ourselves and become better people, and that is something we need desperately to do.

But one thing too that we have to remember in our fast paced selfie world is to give. To give time, give laughter, give a shoulder to cry on, a strong arm to hold, give an ear to hear someone.

Only by giving do we fully understand what it means to be selfless, what it means to be truly happy or joyful.  Find someone to give something to.  Whether you give them time, an object, or something else.  Find ways to give.  You will be happier for it.

Despite The Odds


Why do we like the underdog?  Is it because there is some part of us that identifies with someone going from nothing who has all the odds against him/her and then that person defying the impossibilities of what is against them?

Why do we identify with this?  I believe it’s because we are all meant to defy the odds, we are all meant to overcome impossibilities.

While this is an underlying feeling within us, we have fears and insecurities that keep us from even trying.  What’s worse is we have people projecting their fear onto us, saying that we can’t, when really what they are saying is, “I can’t and therefore I don’t want you to either.”

If you want to defy the odds, you have to get away from the negative voices and start building yourself up with the positive possibilities.  You can do it and you were made for this. So get out there and do it.

The Need to Be Right



We often feel the need to be right…Okay I often feel the need to be right.  After talking with a lot of people though I know it’s a common thread.  While I have a long way to go, over the course of the last year so much has happened that has made me question whether I’ve ever been right about anything.

Seriously, just about every common core fact that one can have I’ve probably questioned. It’s like you go your whole life thinking you know the exact way to go, and you stick close to that path and guard it with tons of passion, but then something happens, and then something else, and you find yourself on a different path.

Then you’re stuck scratching your head asking if maybe this wasn’t the right path all along. So yes, I will admit it.  I’ve been wrong about a lot of things.  My whole outlook on life has been screwed in certain areas.

It’s so easy to get stuck in a rut thinking that I am right, when in reality those thoughts and viewpoints that I used to look down upon, they may indeed have just as much validity as my own.

I don’t know everything, in fact I know very little, which makes me want to learn.

50 Shades of Hypocrisy


First off let me just say that I really can’t stand Christians sometimes.  Yes I am one, but I still can’t stand them at times.  Unless you haven’t been on social media lately I’m sure you’ve heard something or another about the movie 50 Shades of Gray, when I first starting seeing all the controversy I hadn’t even heard of it, so knowing it was sensitive content I asked my wife to look it up and read me some articles about it.

One thing I will probably never understand is why “Christians” pick and choose what they are going to demonize and what they don’t.   No one is above sin, we all do really stupid and wrong things, I do them, and so does everyone else.  But admit to that.

So it baffles me when we watch dancing with the stars, family guy, or the latest bond movie that are filled with porn, and sexuality.  Now some might argue it’s not the same because it doesn’t take it to a certain level.  It’s like saying to your child, you can color on the wall with these markers but only 6 inches off the ground, any higher on the wall and you are in deep trouble.   It makes no sense.

I don’t understand why it’s such a “shocking” thing that movies and tv shows are continually getting worse…well it’s quite simple actually.  When you support shows, movies, or websites that show sex, talk about sex, demoralize fathers, and use women as objects…well it’s naturally going to progress into worse things.  People who make this content are seeing what brings in numbers and dollars, and frankly they are only producing what has been supported.

So please get off your high horse about banning “certain” movies while going to see others that are near as bad, you just like the other one so it’s okay.  Stop trying to get people to “like this page to show you don’t support something” while Iron Man makes out on your TV and you are posting a picture of some Hollywood hunk you think is hot.

As I said earlier, we all have our faults, our weaknesses, we all screw up, but stop trying to make it like you never do and people who do “this” or “that” or worse people.  We all have fallen short, and just because I or you haven’t done some certain thing doesn’t make us any better or worse than someone who has.

Looking Back


Today marks my 300th blog. It’s hard to believe.  Looking back I can’t believe how far I’ve come, and at the same time I can’t help but wonder what the future holds.

Over the last 10 months my blogs have been a personal journey for myself, uncovering things I didn’t even know about myself, fleshing out ideas, thoughts, and opinions.

I hope that I have encouraged you and helped you to question things or maybe dive deeper into something you were unsure about.  Something I didn’t expect was to dive deeper myself.  I am the same person I was when I started and I definitely was faced with some challenging issues that I wrote about.

All this is why I so look forward to the next 300 blogs to come. I am excited to share with you more, to hear your feedback, your own stories, and I am excited to see what changes will come in my own mind.

Thanks so much for following my blog, without you it would just be words.  I look forward to our next 300 together!

Starting Again



Have you ever gotten down?  Failed miserably at something, or feel like something is going to fail?  It sucks, plain and simple.  You feel like you’ve worked incredibly hard at something and yet it still slipped through your fingers.

It happens.  It’s life.

We’ve probably all heard the saying if you fall off a bike or a horse the best thing is to get right back up and keep going.   This is true when we feel like we’ve failed.

It’s easy to sit in our pity, or moan about how hard we have it since we hit rock bottom, but it’s vital that at this point we get back up and start living again, start over.  Think of all the knowledge and new wisdom you will have, think of all you learned whether it was what not to do or what did work great.

You can start over, and it can be better than what you ever imagined.  Get going.

Digging Deep


Digging down into our personal lives hurts sometimes. It’s never easy to allow the crap that’s buried inside to come surfacing out.  We’d rather keep it locked away, we’d rather not talk about it, we’d rather lead everyone to believe that it doesn’t exist.

But it is there, down deep, where years of hiding, and forgetting has covered it up.  Like a dusty old box buried in the attic or basement.

When we start to uncover and start to pull the cobwebs off it hurts, like peeling a scab.  But there is good that come of it.  When we are honest with ourselves and with those around us about our mistakes, or about our mess-ups, it brings relief and freedom.

When we do this, if the people we open up to shun us, or turn their backs on us, they probably don’t need to be in your life.

It’s not worth hiding things.  Dig deep and get it out.  You’ll be glad you did.

Who Likes Conflict?


I doubt many people would say they enjoy conflict.  In fact most people I’ve heard hate it.  Why is this?

We pay millions of dollars every year to go see blockbuster movies that are all based around some type of conflict.  We are enamored by TV shows that deal with what?  That’s right: conflict.

I know I hate conflict.  And I’m starting to ask myself why?

Shouldn’t I appreciate it?  Shouldn’t I look at it as an opportunity to also come to a resolution?

No conflict is not always pretty, it’s often ugly, it’s the furthest thing from glamorous. But if I simply change my thinking and my mindset on the cause and effect of conflict, will I begin to view it differently and respond to it differently?

I’m not 100% sure, but I am interested in finding out.

Expect The Unexpected





We often have a huge fear of the unexpected…..what if this happens?…….what if this goes wrong?……what if it goes right?…..

We worry needlessly.  I’ve heard it said that most of the things that cause us the most fear never even happen.

So why do we fear the unexpected?  Think about it…..how many things have happened in your life that were unexpected and looking back you are glad they happened?  Something a friend did for you?  An unexpected surprise from your spouse?  Often time unexpected things cause us happiness not grief.

Now I’m not saying bad unexpected events never happen, they do.  But we can’t live our lives holding on to what “might happen”.  Embrace the unexpected, look for it, become it’s friend, and you just might find yourself a happier person for it.

Manic Monday!


For a lot of people Monday can be a dreaded day. Some of us have jobs we don’t really like, or the week just holds things we would rather not face.  It’s easy when Monday hits to lose the momentum, carefree spirit, and happiness that we had over the weekend.

I struggle with this some weeks (of course Tuesdays are my Mondays, but same dif).

It’s really important throughout our week of ups and downs to maintain focus.  It’s really easy to come home from work and be drained, whether it is physical, mental, or both.

Keep your mind in a good place though.  Instead of waiting to punch out so you can veg, look forward to punching out so that you can devote time to your dreams and goals.

Most of us have some free time during our workday, even if it’s just a break or our lunch hour.  Use this time to write down your goals, dreams, passions, brainstorm ideas for how to achieve them.

Work may be hard, but you can remain positive and stay on track for what your future goals are. Keep at it.  You will get there!