We grow up with so many dreams. As kids we aspire to be so much. It’s not a matter of not having enough dreams, we usually have more than we know what to do with.
Then life happens, our creativity is stifled and we are taught that those who dare great things are dumb and just get hurt.
So we stifle the desires in us until we forget them ourselves. Nothing could be worse for our lives.
Those dreams and passions that once burned so bright inside us can come out again. It’s never too late, and you are never too far gone. Don’t stay stuck in a job you hate, in a city you can’t stand. Start over, go for the big job interview, get the degree, make the move to the city or country of your dreams.
What do you have to lose? I mean really? Worse case scenario it doesn’t work out and you try something else….but best case? You find a whole new life that you love. Go for it. Don’t live regretting the choices you never made.
What is enough? When you reach a certain goal, land a certain job? Make enough money? Get married? Have the right number of kids? Get the dream house perfectly decorated?
We all have some kind of idea of when enough will be enough. But there are two sides to that.
1. We put our focus getting “enough” of the wrong things.
2. We quit too soon, saying we have enough.
In the first mistake we focus on things that don’t truly matter, things we do to impress other people, satisfy other people who’s opinions we care too much about.
We tend to not chase after the things that we should be running after and instead let society and people tell us what to chase after.
In the second we give up. We reach a goal, but then we go no further.
If you look at successful people who have contributed major break throughs, they don’t quit once they “make it”, they simply move on to the next big idea they have.
There isn’t a one size fits all finish line. We should keep making bigger goals as we meet the small ones. Don’t ever just become complacent with life and let it just wash over you. Don’t let one goal be enough.
Keep moving forward, keep setting and breaking goals.
Why do we fall? It’s painful, it hurts, and it can be embarrassing. So why do it? Well honestly sometimes we can’t help it. We mess up sometimes unintentionally. It happens.
That doesn’t make the mess up right, but it puts it into perspective. We don’t always get it right, and we can’t ever hope to be perfect, but every time we do fall, it teaches us one more way to stay up.
Because when we fall, we tend to not fall in the same way next time. We might fall again, but not by the same means.
Falling and failure can be great teachers if we take the lessons to heart and don’t dwell on the failure, but instead focus on the lesson, and be a good student and learn how to be better.
What’s your personality? Are you outgoing? Are you quiet? Introverted, extroverted? We all have unique personalities that we develop throughout our lives.
Some personalities compliment others, some clash with others.
Some will try to change your personality.
Now before go on, we all have personality tendencies that probably need improvement. We all pick up bad habits in this regard in some area, and we need to control those bad tendencies. For instance if you are an introvert, you still need interaction with humans, you need to experience life.
If you are an extreme outgoing person, you need to be able to be calm at times and have times of quiet, and be able to listen attentively to other people.
So while there are certain characteristics within your personality that may need to be stretched, stay true to the core of who you are.
If we were all introverts, the world would be a very quiet place, if we were all extroverts, we would all having a shouting match all the time.
Every day matters. Every minute matters. I know this is a hard concept to grasp. It is for me I know.
But every minute does matter. Now I know we have responsibilities and things we have to do. We have to provide for our families, get our education and so forth.
But our attitude and our actions can all either propel us towards making a difference or it can keep us stuck.
We have to see what difference we can make in our every day life. How can you impact your family? How can you impact your coworkers or your customers? How can you impact your class-mates?
There is a way that you can make a difference in everyone’s life you come in contact with. It may be as simple as asking questions, or maybe it consists of lending a helping hand to someone you know is in need.
Regardless of what it is, change your perspective, change your attitude and look for ways to make a difference all around you.
Those seemingly little things are not little and will lead you to making a bigger difference.
Sometimes it can be a challenge to find ourselves. It can be challenging to discover the core of what we love doing.
This is even harder if you grew up in a pressured environment, where peers or family tried to get you to do something that you weren’t originally thrilled about.
There is one way to really find who you are and what you love. This way is trying things.
If you are unsure of what to do, try something, take a painting class, try a semester of college, apply for that job that caught your attention. What do you have to lose? Worst case scenario you don’t like it and you come away with new talents or experience and move on to something new.
The most efficient way to NOT get somewhere is to do nothing. Living your life the same way day in and day out is not the answer. You have to be proactive.
It will seem strange as you start to do new things, but do it anyway. It will begin to feel normal.
Try it. Explore it. Find yourself.
What am I giving back? It’s a question I don’t ask often enough and then when I actually stop to ask it, I am faced with the reality that my answer is: “not much”. I try really hard to make the best of my family’s life and myself, but I often overlook helping others.
I would love to be able to say that I give all the time. But the sad fact is I don’t. I want to, but I don’t.
So it caused me to ask, what is the main reason I don’t? Is it a time issue? Is it a priority issues? Is it just a laziness issue?
I honestly don’t know the answer. It is something I’m asking myself more, and want to find the answer. So I am searching.
It’s really easy to talk about great ideas. It’s easy to get in discussions on different topics and be very passionate about what you are talking about. It’s easy to have all the answers, have all the right solutions. Again…it’s easy in theory.
It’s easy to talk a big game, but when it actually comes to living out your ideas and theories, it falls under a totally different scope.
It’s easy to talk in the comfort of your home or restaurant, but when it comes to living out what you preach it’s much, much more difficult.
The real test of whether you believe something comes when you are faced with a real life situation that requires you to put your money where your mouth is.
Often it’s much better to do a lot less talking and let your actions speak for you. If you allow your actions to lead, you don’t run the risk of being all talk and no show. Words, are just words, but actions speak a volume of words.
Have you ever reached a moment where what you’ve been striving towards no longer holds any appeal to you? Perhaps you’ve been working hard at moving up the ladder at work only to realize you don’t enjoy your work. Maybe you are about to graduate with a degree in a field that you don’t want to go in to.
Maybe you just moved but are miserable in your new city or town.
You are not alone, and there is nothing wrong with you. It’s only as we try out new things and go after our dreams that we narrow our vision for what we truly want. It’s only by trial and error that we discover what we love and what we don’t.
All the pre-contemplation in the world won’t let you know whether you are making the right decision, only getting out there and actually doing it will.
So if you find yourself rethinking everything you are doing, don’t worry, because you are discovering yourself. It’s a good thing.
My daughter loves life. She wakes up happy every morning and races around our home smiling and laughing.
It doesn’t take much to entertain her. Some small household item that she has never seen before can fascinate her.
She loves to go outside, she grabs her shoes at random times during the day in hopes we can go outside.
She has a sense of wonder over everything.
I want to live more like that. I want to see the wonder in everything. Because it is there. It’s just that familiarity tends to stifle that wonder, and I begin to take things for granted.
But how much more exciting is life when I specifically try to find the wonder in everything. Don’t simple things then become extraordinary? Isn’t it far worth it?
I want to see everything as if it’s the first time. I want to see the world with wonder.