Risk Taker?


Would you consider yourself a risk taker?  If not how come?  Do you think we should live a life of risk?  Or a life of security.

Security is nice.  After all my day job involves securing peoples homes, so I know first hand how important security is.  But I’m not talking about security over our possessions or personal beings and families.  I’m talking about security in never doing anything that involves us taking chances.

For instance. Maybe you have a good job, but you hate it.  You dread the drive in to work, and you have trouble falling asleep the night before because you are dreading it so much.  Maybe what you really want to do involves a lot less money.

So what?  Take the risk and go for it.   Would you rather live in misery instead?

Or maybe you are really into him or her and are debating jumping totally in, moving for them, or committing to them.  Is there truly a reason you are hesitant?  Or is it simply you are afraid.

Fear can cripple, it can paralyze us and keep us stuck.

Time marches on faster than we realize, so get out of your normal routine, and start something grand today.

When You Don’t Want To


So it’s been over a week since I’ve posted,far too long, and I apologize for my absence.  I got back home on Wednesday and am now reunited with my wife and daughter.  Eight months of living 9 months apart is over as I trained in the military. Instead of seeing my family only through Skype I get to see them and be with them each day.

I am  not going to lie while I was away it was painful.  We had strains and we had bad days both me and my wife.  It’s rough living apart for that long.

But it’s over. Eight months ago it seemed like this day would never come.  When I left home in January it seemed like September was years away.

Two things I realized through this experience.  One is that pain is temporary.  Yes it sucked some days, but all in all, it’s a very short time and flew by and the benefits and reward will far outweigh the short amount of time we both sacrificed in order for me to go through this life changing experience.

If you are debating making a tough decision just remember it is temporary, it will pass, and you should go for it.  Don’t live with regrets and should haves.

Want Adventure?


Adventure is a funny thing. We seem to all crave it.  Maybe not all, but within many of us lies a desire to get caught up in something bigger than ourselves.  We want to be swept away into a land of mystery.

Billions of dollars are spent on movies, video games, and other virtual mechanisms that try to take us to another place.

The truth is, adventure is our for the taking.  It’s all around us.  As kids we know this to be true. All it takes is some awesome sun glasses and a cape and the sky is the limit for us.

But along the way of life we stop caring, we stop wanting more with our lives, and start settling.  To a degree some settling has to occur, after all we are adults now and have to take care of our responsibilities, but that doesn’t mean we abandon the crazy dreams and adventurous life style we want.

What is your dream?  What do you want to do?  Chances are whatever it is, it requires risk, it requires taking chances, and not being able to see what’s around the next bend.

But don’t be afraid of that.  Embrace it and run forward.  Life is what you make of it. If you want it to be complacent and safe, you can make it that way, if you want a daring adventure, you can make that happen.

When It Starts


When you start out something new, it can be scary.  Even thinking about starting something new can be really scary.  The fear of the unknown has paralyzed many from venturing off the beaten path.

This is normal though.  There’s not something wrong with you for feeling this way.  We have fears we have inhibitions often.  That is a normal part of life.

The popular quote about courage not being the absence of fear but rather feeling fear and choosing to still move forward.  That is the essence of courage.  To see the unknown road, to realize that there may be twists and turns that we know nothing about, that there might be things that jump out at us, that try to drag us down along the way, but we can get through them.

It’s easy to focus on all the “what ifs” I’m bad about this.  I often think of everything that can possibly go wrong.  But you know what?  So what.  So what if if things go wrong.  So what if things come crashing down around you, you will get through those circumstances when they arrive.  The challenges and fears we face build us into stronger images of ourselves.  So keep going and have courage, you can do this.

So Here I Am


So today is the first time in 6 months that I haven’t been consumed with studying.   I have been going through a program that has been difficult to say the least.  Far harder than any college I’ve ever experienced. For 6 months straight I’ve sat through 6 hours of class, and studied on average 4 hours after that on my own.

So it’s weird to be at a point where I don’t have that.  It’s weird to be sitting here writing this not thinking (I better hurry and finish so I can get back to studying).  In those six months I’d be lying if I said there weren’t times I wanted to quit.  That there weren’t times I wanted to give up.  But I knew why I was doing this, I knew my why.  And that got me through.

When we start something new we get really excited.  After all, it’s something new!  But then the newness wears off, and we realize that getting to the top of that mountain where our dream lies takes a lot of hard work.  We realize that it sucker punches us when we are least expecting it, and we realize the path takes turns and twists we never dreamed.

When the lights are out and you are crawling blind folded up the path, remember your why.  Remember why you started.  Think about how you will feel if you quit.  Yeah it might be nice for a week, but you’d live with regret.

So no matter what’s at stake, keep pushing forward, keep being bold, and stay disciplined. You can do this.

Next Steps


Sometimes taking a new step can be scary.  Eight months ago I left home, left my wife and daughter in order to pursue something that would better all of us.  It’s been difficult. Being away for that long from my family is not the easiest on either me or my family.  But we knew it was what was best.

Both my wife and I believe in going hard after your dreams, going boldly towards things that many just talk about.

While that sounds awesome, the truth is that often when we take steps towards dreams and goals, it’s not a pretty journey.  Sometimes the way is paved with thorns, and mountains that seem to climb without ceasing.

We are nearing the end of our time apart, with just over a week to go.  It’s been a long journey, and a tough one, but looking back, we wouldn’t do it any different. We would still chase our dreams, and strive to go after things that seem bigger than ourselves.  I cannot wait to be reunited with them.

Eight months ago it seemed like this approaching day was out of sight, and now it’s within reach.  It was eight months that were very hard, but at the same time, if we hadn’t chosen this, we would both question forever if I had missed an opportunity.   Neither of us want to live a life of question or doubt.  And so with this chapter done, I head home soon, and begin a brand new one.

Chase your dreams.  Go after them.  The journey can suck sometimes, but it’s worth it in the end.

Take A Moment


It’s Saturday, another week is in the history books.  Before you start kicking butt this weekend take an hour or so out of your day and jot down some thoughts.  Grab a cup of coffee or tea.  Evaluate where you are in life.  Where you’ve come from, and where you’re going.

Take some time for you, to sit and be alone with your thoughts.

We need to conquer the world and do the best we can, but we also have to reconnect with ourselves in order to fully understand whether we are on track or not.

So get some alone time.  Make some new goals, and refresh yourself before chasing after your dream this weekend.

Best wishes on this weekend, hope it’s a great one.

Go For Gold


There’s no substitute for hard work.  No substitute, for taking that leap of faith when you can’t see the bridge.   That leap that takes your breath away, makes you want to scream, and makes you absolutely terrified.

Going after your dream is terrifying, it truly is.  People will try to tell you not take the “risk”, to play it safe and stay complacent where you are at, never growing, never stretching yourself.

But if you want new things you have to go new places, experience new things, and take a lot of risk.

It’s not always easy, and even after taking the initial plunge you may wish at times you could back to how things were, but tough it out and keeping moving forward because those regrets will fade and turn in to the things you love.

Don’t give up the fight.  You’ve got this.

What’s love Got to do with it?


Love…we get the concept of this confused a lot. It’s not a matter of sending flowers on valentines day and getting our birthday sex. It goes a lot deeper. It’s daily sacrifices, choosing to put someone else above yourself. That’s easier said than done when you grow up and live 25 years before committing your life to someone. Each person brings in a lot of baggage, a lot of hurt, a lot of habits to a marriage. It takes learning what to let go of in order to bring cohesivness. It takes caring, taking the extra time to find out how the other person is doing, even when you don’t feel like it. There aren’t always fireworks, and during those times it’s super important to make decisions that increase both of your loves for one another.

It’s digging in and saying, I’m not feeling it right now, but I made a committment to you and that means more than my fluctuating feelings.

It means faithfulness, not just sexually but emotionally. We live in culture that parades sex and nudity around like it’s nothing. That doesn’t lead to good things. You have each other, that should be enough. Avoid things with excessive exploitation of other people.

Crush on your spouse, not ideas of movie stars or musicians. They are just people with their own faults and flaws like everyone else, and you don’t have a relationship with them.

Guard your love. Guard it fiercely, not in the crazy jealous sense, but in the “you have my love, and don’t have to worry about anything” sense. Keep your word. If you mess up or hurt your spouse, make amends, don’t play the “I’m right, they’re wrong” game. Fess up when you screw up.

It’s not a secret formula, it’s not based on whether you are compatiable, you obviously are or you never would have hooked up in the first place. Stick it out, and throw yourself all in. Don’t go half hearted in, but stay true whether you feel like it or not. It’s worth it.

Misplaced Priorities


If you are like me sometimes you get your priorities mixed up. It happens. So how do you find out your priorities?

What are your resonsibilities? Are you single, in college, working, striving towards a goal? Do the best you can. Don’t settle for being an average employee, do the best job you possibly can, without being asked.

Are you in college? Strive to get good grades, work hard.

Are you married? Marriage takes work, you wouldn’t expect to buy a business and have it run itself, same with marriage, it needs daily maintenance. Don’t overlook small things in your marriage. A kind word, a thoughtful note, a snack left for your spouse, a randome I love you text can mean the world sometimes, and reminds us that our significant other is thinking about us.

Do you have kids? Nurture them, spend time with them, but also lead them. Don’t let them waste their lives in front of LED screens, there is a lot more of life for them to experience, this takes doing it yourself. Lead by example, get out of the house with your kids. Get them involved in sports, art, dancing, gymnastics, weight lifting, extreme sports, whatever their interest is. Bring them alongside you. Don’t revolve your life around them, but rather bring them alongside you into your world where they can experience all the things you do in life.

Look for ways to help people throughout the day, whether it’s something small like holding the door open for someone, or taking a minute to genuinely ask how the cashier checking you out is doing. We all need support, we all need kindness. It builds us and strengthens us to be and do more.