Long Week

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The week is finally over for me.  I don’t know why, but this week has been incredibly long. One of those weeks you are glad is over.  I don’t even fully know why.  Regardless though I am content now to be sitting drinking some coffee, and catching up on some social media and writing.

My wife is busy studying (grad school fun), and my daughter is trying to figure out how to put on her mommy’s shoes while watching Mary Poppins, her 2nd favorite movie (2nd only to The Sound Of Music, she has a thing for Julie Andrews).

Honestly I feel a little lazy today, and despite working on some taxes for my wife’s business and reworking our budget, I am not doing much at all today.

The crazy thing….that’s okay.  We all need some downtime every now and then.  It won’t last long.  Tomorrow I will be going a mile a minute, and hitting the gym harder than ever, but for now.  I am enjoying the stillness.

The Hard Days

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Have you ever had one of those days where you wish you could hide in bed all day? Sooner or later we all have one of those days.  We don’t really feel like going to work at the crack of dawn, we’re tired of our diet, or our exercise program.  We feel worn out, tired.

There’s one thing that really helps on days like this.  My wife and daughter.  Somehow they are more than enough motivation to be strong another day.  To work hard, to do my best to be honorable.

Sure that doesn’t mean every day I have it all together.  In fact rarely if ever is life all together.  Each day has its challenges, its hardships, its battles we must fight.

Don’t be afraid to be weak some days.  It happens.  Sometimes you do need to come home and take a nap, sometimes you do need a break and just rent a movie and chill with your friends, your loved one, or your spouse.

In fact it’s these simple pleasures that we find in those we love that make the hard days worth it.

Social Media Is Our New Girlfriend

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We have a tendency to lose ourselves in social media from time to time.  We forget that real life and real relationships are all around us.  We lose ourselves in trying to find out what all our friends have done today by reading their posts, rather than getting coffee with them.

We have a tendency to create our Facebook face, the parts that only the world can see, and hide all the parts we are ashamed of.  It’s easier, in a friendship you have to be real in order to maintain a strong friendship.  In social media you can be fake.

Sometimes we need to unplug.  When you come home after a long day work you don’t need to run to your laptop, you need to connect with your family, your significant other, or whoever you share your home with.

Don’t just post a status telling your friend you are thinking about them, call them up, set up a coffee date, go do something fun with them.

Social media has literally become like a girlfriend or boyfriend for many of us, and sadly at the expense of the important people in our life.

Social media is good, but don’t put it in a place it doesn’t belong.

Believe in Yourself

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Often times when we set out to chase our dream it doesn’t always go as planned.  Not the actual chasing of your dream part, but the remarks and criticism of others.

Others will not believe in your dream.  They will call you crazy, say you are being unwise, say you are being irresponsible, and many more things.  Now I’m not saying everyone, I hope that your spouse or significant other encourages you to fulfill your dream.

Most of the time this stems from people being to insecure or to afraid to go after their own dreams and so they feel that no one should go after their dreams.

Now if you have responsibilities such as a family and need to provide for them, that may adjust how you need to pursue your dream, while still maintaining your responsibilities, but otherwise, go after your dream, no matter your age.  Find what makes you alive and do it.  That thing you’ve always talked about and have always wanted to do, why not do it?  You have one life.  Are you going to wake up one day and say “I’m glad I didn’t try.”?  Or are you going to have regrets if you at least don’t give it a shot.

So go out there and try.  And please ignore the naysayers, they are everywhere, they don’t understand your dream and they don’t have to.  Be you, and believe in yourself.

 

Seeing The Good

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My coffee simmers next to me, Mat Kearney fills the room. My daughter is sitting on the couch staring at me, still waking up with that sleepy look in her eyes.  I’ll be out the door and off to work in 15 minutes.  Some mornings I really hate going to work, not that the job is terrible, just there are more important things I would love to do.

I work a Tuesday through Saturday shift, and I never realized how much I would miss out on with Saturday mornings.  Yard sales, spending time with my family, pancakes.  It’s the simple things I feel are stolen from me.

I am grateful for the good though, thankful for my job, that I can provide for my family.  That I can see them be happy and do the things important to them.  It is worth it, even though on this particular Saturday I really want to walk around in my pj’s and eat pancakes instead.

Give More, Love More

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In this crazy fast paced world, where it seems there are never enough hours in a day, it’s really easy for me to get caught up in thinking about just me and my family. While those are important things to focus on at times, there is more we have to look to.

There are so many people out there down on there luck, stuck in depression, just needing someone to offer a helping hand, a friendly smile, or a simply a sincere hug.

But in my daily race, how often do I miss those who are looking for a kind word?  How often do I miss the man who needs an encouraging word, the woman who needs a genuine smile?

It’s so important for me to slow down enough to notice that there are others out there who not only need, but deserve me to be engaged, who knows how I could change their day?

The Problem Is Me?

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It’s easy to find fault in other people, after all we live in a tough world.  Everyone has a story to tell.  We all have demons from our past.  Things that have hurt us, made us weak, made look at the world through jaded glasses.  We all have missed out on certain elements that we needed in order to have a healthy life, but for one reason or another we didn’t get.

But there comes a point in our lives when we have to stop blaming our past, our pain, or our childhood, family, ex, or anything else for our lives not looking like what we want them to look like.

You have to take ownership of your problems.  Yes they may suck really bad, and yes they may not be totally your fault but the way you move forward is your responsibility, and you can get beyond your past.  You can hit your goals, hit your dreams, and have the life you’ve always wanted.

Start looking for ways to conquer your problems, not stay stuck in them.

Priorities

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Have you ever said or heard someone say “I would but I don’t have time”?  If I’ve heard that once I’ve heard it a thousand times.  The truth is you have time for what you want to have time for.  Many people try to find reasons why they don’t have time, “I have a family”, “my kids take up all my time”, “I go to college”.  Whatever the reason, there are many excuses out there.

And they are nothing more than that….excuses.  The truth is we can make time if we truly want to.  We manage to squeeze in time to watch our favorite TV shows, or time to get lunch with our friends, time to golf, time to watch the football game, or time to go shop.  Yet, we say we don’t have time?

In reality we can make time for things that we really want to do. Often times though, we truly don’t want something bad enough to make time for it.

There are no excuses for not doing something other than the fact of not making time for it.  So schedule it in, if you try you will have time.

Hit Harder

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Nothing can hurt more than life itself. There is desperation, pain, suffering, and emotional heartbreak.  It will hit us time and time again.

But what determines who we are and our character is how we learn to deal with these issues.  We can accept them as it being the way life is, accept the doctor’s diagnosis, accept the failure to get hired, accept the break up, or we can choose to take our pain and use it for something positive.

We can choose to get beat down and burned out, or we can make a decision to rise above it, to come out the other side stronger.

It’s easy to play the pity party game.  We think we have it so bad.  But believe me there is someone who has it way worse than you.  Stop feeling down, choose to find the positive, choose to make something better of your life despite the odds, try to repair the relationship that seems lost, try to achieve the physical goal you want so bad.

Tell yourself you can do this over and over and over until your mind believes it, and you will see it accomplished.  Don’t ever let anything get you down, hit harder than life.

Make the Tough Climb

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Have you ever asked yourself why are  things so hard?  You strive and try and yet seem to never get ahead or get to your destination?

In truth achieving your dreams, and hitting your goals is very hard work.  It takes determination, sweat, and grit.  On top of all that, you have responsibilities in addition to your dream.  Maybe to your job, your school, your spouse, your kids.

Going after your dream with all you have is so vitally important, but so is making sure you are being responsible where you are at.  While making self sacrifices is key to hitting your goal, asking your family or others to constantly make sacrifices can lead to irresponsibility.

How do I achieve my goals then?  Through hard work..

Take care of your responsibilities at work, school, or at home, do your best in everything while at the same time busting your butt for your goal.

Basically what I am saying is even while pursuing your goal, you have to take ownership of the things you are responsible over.  If you have a family to provide for you can’t just up and quit your job to throw yourself head long into your dream while wife frantically sees piling up bills, and your kids go without.

Being responsible with what you have now, will make your dream come that much better. Because if you can manage that well, you will manage your dream all the more better.

It is hard work, and it takes even more diligence, but keep at it, stay responsible over your current affairs, and bust butt to still pursue your dream as well.