My wife and I discovered something after we had a child. It’s really hard for us to ever hang out with anyone with kids. Most of our friends are either single, or married without children.
Why is this? Well, it’s pretty simple, we’ve found a lot of parents who use there kids as excuses of why they can’t do something.
As a parent now for 2 years I don’t understand this concept at all. My wife and I have a lot going on, between both of us working going to school full time, hitting the gym 5 times a week, plus my wife runs a non-profit, as well as her own business. This is aside from our blogging, e-books, and other projects we have going on. Yes we are extremely busy, but we don’t know any other way.
So naturally we brought our child into the world expecting her to be a go getter. And that she is. When she knows we are going somewhere she runs and grabs her shoes, starts laughing hysterically and then proceeds to beat on the front door until we leave. She loves to be on the go as much as her parents. She is very used to going everywhere, she never meets a stranger, and has no fear of anything.
We love this, we want her to see by example how to live a full life. As a dad it scares the crap out of me all the time when I hear crazy stories in the news, and I will probably be stalking her first boyfriend. But I want her to experience life, and experience it fully. I don’t want her to see her parents just wasting away time, watching TV and staying inside the house. She is already learning this.
Kids are not an excuse not do things, they are all the more reason to do things.