Thirties can be a dreaded time by some. For some it’s the first time you feel like an adult, for others it feels like accomplishing your dreams are over. For some it means the wild days are over and it’s time to live a normal life.
First let me tell you what 30’s is not then we’ll talk about what it is.
30 is not the end. 30 is not the time to sit on the couch watching football in your suburbia house with your 2.5 kids.
30 is not the time to stop exploring and stop being adventurous.
30 is not the time to quit dreaming.
30 is not the time when your kids are your sole goal in life.
30 is not the time when pinterest crafts and decorating your home to look like something out of a magazine should be your goal.
If anything your 30’s should be a time to live life even more bolder than before. Your kids are at an age where they need to see their parents going out and making the world a better place and building their dreams and their parents saying to them “dreams take risk, watch and don’t be afraid”.
If you are in your thirties now is the best time to get in shape, to build your busineas, to go back to school, to work hard for your dreams. You have more confidence under your belt more experience, more motivation.
So many people use their family, job, or age as As a crutch to keep them from truly living. It’s an excuse that keeps us lazy and complacent.
Your family should be a propellant to make you want to be more for them and so that your kids will grow up seeing what it truly means to live to the fullest.
So stop being depressed, stop playing fantasy football and fussing over coffee for hours to no end.
Get out there and make something of your life. Build your future, do the things you were meant to do to make this place better for you and your family and those who will follow you.
Opportunity is always there it’s just a matter of you beating down the door to get it.
I’m now in my 30’s and I have never been in better physical shape. I can run circles around some 20 year olds in the gym. On the other hand I see guys older than me who are in even better shape than I am and it inspires me. I am constantly setting new goals and higher standards, and I don’t expect that will ever change, because I know I can always be more.
Age has really become a crutch in our society. We think that because we are in our 20’s that life is just about sleeping around and partying or that when we are in our 30’s we should just make money have 2.5 kids and watch sports. When we hit 50 we think it’s okay yo abandoned reason for affairs or over priced cars. It’s really outrageous when you think about it.
The truth is regardless of your age you should be fighting for something larger than yourself, striving for more. Don’t say when you are young “I’ll get on shape when I’m older”. And if you are older don’t think it’s too late to get in shape.
Drop the excuses, and instead drop kick the door of opportunity and march in.
People have lots of excuses. Christians like to use the one that says “it’s not right timing” and “God hasn’t opened the door”.
Parents tend to use the excuse “I have kids and don’t have time”.
There are a million others “I don’t have the money”. “Now’s not good timing”. “I will next year”, “I will someday”. “If I was younger”.
Everyone has a plausible excuse in their own mind. But that’s all it is, a very lame excuse.
It amazed me the things people use as excuses just to put something off. I know because I’ve been there myself. But I realized excuses are just lies we believe and time wasters.
You are never going to be at a perfect place, never going to have the perfect amount of money. You can’t go back or forward in time. And God isn’t waiting to “open a door”. He’s waiting for you to bust down the door.
The world needs action not excuses. Your kids need examples of what it means to go out and conquer fears and dreams.
You want a different life? The only way you will get it is by working hard and making decisions that bring risk and fear. But that’s a good thing. Overcome, bust down the door and rock it.
If you have a dream in life you have to go out and get it. It’s not gonna fall in your lap. It’s not going to magically show up in front of you as you drive to work. You won’t be walking down the road and door won’t drop in front of you. A voice isn’t gonna thunder from the sky and tell you exactly what to do.
You have to dream it, climb it, build it, and work for it. You have to sweat, you have to go through pain, go through hurt, and go through trials.
You have to work to achieve greatness, you have to work to achieve your dream. Nothing in life ever comes without hard work. Do your part and don’t give up at the first sight of trouble. You weren’t meant to live an average life, you weren’t meant to sit and do nothing. You weren’t meant to drown yourself in worthless fads, but to live fully and change the things around you.
I’ve been away from home for over 6 months now. I miss them. I miss home. One thing I’ve really come to appreciate during this time of separation is the small things. It’s those little things that constantly fill my mind with memories. Those little things I get to hear and see that make it all worth it.
6 months ago my wife and prepared for this long temporary time apart. It was very hard saying goodbye, but we knew we’d be back together in 8 months. At the time it seemed incredibly long and now here we are with less than 2 to go. There’s been times when it’s not been easy, but it’s been worth it. We know it’s bringing us to a place that we want for our futures, and we will soon be reunited, and it will make that time together all the more sweeter.
It’s definitely given me a different perspective on a lot of things. It’s given me a much larger respect for those whose jobs take them away from their loved ones, much more respect for those who chase after their dreams, because it takes work.
You read about how people struggle to get through things, but you don’t really understand the struggle, you just focus on the outcome. The outcome is worth the fight. It’s worth the journey. But the journey does take work. It does take sacrifice, and it does take having some ugly days. That’s just part of the process. But those days will pass. They won’t last forever.
I say this as much to myself as to anyone reading this, because it’s something I have to remember. I know without a doubt it will be worth it. So whatever you are striving for, keep going and don’t stop. You will be glad you kept going.
I confess I can be a very selfish person sometimes. I can get my head so wrapped around my own issues and I lose sight of the bigger things in the world. I get so caught up in striving for my gain and I lose sight of those who need me to stop striving and to stop and help.
If there is one thing needed it’s kindness. It’s self sacrifice. It’s caring enough to stop and help.
It’s taking the time to look up from my screen and see the world around me. Taking a step back and looking at what is around me. Because I all too often miss it. Not just overlook it, but miss it completely.
I forget there are kids who will go to bed hungry tonight, or scared of what may happen to them while they sleep.
I forget that somewhere a man doesn’t know where his family’s next meal will come from. I forget that someone is contemplating living because they can’t remember the last time someone was kind to them.
Simple things. Simple things that I so often overlook.
We all want to be more. We watch movies about overcoming, about becoming stronger, becoming a better person. We love the idea of a hero. Love the idea of overcoming seemingly impossible odds.
So why then does our motivation stop with the rolling of the credits to a favorite movie? Why do we lack the motivation in our every day life?
It’s because we are lacking one vital key. It’s called sacrifice. You can’t expect to have a life like no other when you live like everyone else. It’s just not possible. You have to take risks, you have to be bold, have to be daring.
Yes as you step out you will be scared to death.
I love, and I mean love the movie “The Secret Life of Walter Mitty”. Last year when I saw that movie for the first time, I didn’t even know yet that my life would be radically changing as I joined the Navy.
Now here I am 6 months into my Naval career with still 3 months to go until I am reunited with my wife and child. It’s been a huge sacrifice on both mine and my wife’s part. It’s taken sacrifice. It’s taken long lonely nights, it’s taken missing my baby girl’s precious smile. But in 3 months I’ll have that back. Yes it’s been tiring, hard, but it’s been so worth it. It’s taking me and my family where we want to go. We are dreaming bigger than ever. We are living our lives to the fullest, the craziest busiest run and go life and we love every minute of it. We want our daughter to grow up knowing that great things are hard, but worth it.
So start doing. Take the leap, jump, and believe. It will be worth it.
Got a goal? Got an idea? Got a dream? Awesome. Dream big, anchor that puppy down and start building it. Now. where you are at.
It’s easy to use lack of resources, know-how, time, money, as an excuse to put off dreaming big. But it’s just excuses, nothing more, nothing less. I know because all too often I’ve let excuses get in my way of living my life to the fullest.
And while I’m sure there will be excuses that will rear their head, I know to pop them down like a whack a mole game because they keep real life out. They keep real experiences.
I am learning to live bold, to live free, to live a crazy, busy, fast paced life, because in reality life is short. We have so limited time to do all the millions of things we are meant to do and I don’t want to hit the end knowing I left stones unturned.
There will be obstacles, will be doubters, will be mistakes, hard work…but there truly are no limits. Live it out today. Live it to the fullest.
There are a million awesome ideas and dreams that people have. Sadly many of those ideas and dreams no one will ever know about. Why? Because of procrastination. Life is super busy and throws sucker punches often. And we have a way of saying “tomorrow”. We say that we’ll follow our dream once we have X amount of dollars, once our kids are grown, once we are married, once we are out of college.
All these reasons gridlock our lives into stagnation and we end up one day never having anything except regrets and ideas that never got out of our minds.
Start today. Let today be the day that you rise above defeat. That you become more than average. Work your butt of, don’t waste time. Put dreams to reality and live the dream now. Not tomorrow, not someday. Live it today.
Step up to the plate. It’s yours for the taking if you want it. Life isn’t meant to just get through, it’s meant to conquer and step into boldly.
It’s not about staying safe and comfortable on your beach house all your life, it’s about going boldly into the face of danger, fighting for things you are passionate about and not giving up.
Life is about bold, daring adventures. It’s about giving more than you get, about taking chances, taking steps in the direction of your dreams.
Don’t get caught up in a fantasy world, where TV shows become your reality, and having the perfect house with 2.5 kids is your ultimate goal. There’s nothing wrong with wanting those things and having them, but there is so much more to life than just that.
You were meant for more, and you are capable of more. So get out there and grab life by the horns.