The Adventure Of Lifetime

So I’m not a huge fan of cartoon movies, but I love Up, I do.  I think my favorite scene in the entire movie is when Mr. Frederickson finally realizes that his house which is his prized possession is worthless compared to the value of friendship, and he mercilessly throws everything out of his house, gets rid of his walker, and goes to save a young boy.

He may be really old, but he finally discovered what was important, and what’s more it made him feel alive, younger, and free.

Doing what we love to do and what we want to do is so freeing.  We feel alive, like we are in a honeymoon stage with life.

I tend to be overly practical much of the time, I rationalize everything, plan everything, and pretty much convince myself of why something won’t work before I ever try it.

It’s bad I know, and I’m working on it.  I haven’t hit my goal that I know I’m supposed to be doing, but I know I need it.  And so with that in mind, I am trying to start my adventure of a lifetime.

The Long Haul

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Sometimes it’s really easy to lose sight of the goal. You make plans, a one year, five year goal etc.  But five months in you are back-peddling, thinking it’s hopeless.

I feel like this sometimes.  I want certain things, and by golly I want them now!  But Rome wasn’t built in a day.  Things take time, and the reality is, when we stand there and look at the finish line it seems so far off, yet at the same time the days fly by.  A year really isn’t that long.

It seems like just yesterday my daughter was born and yet she is now fifteen months old, and I can’t believe how far my family and I are on our list of goal achievements.

It’s so important to look at life like a puzzle, you can’t just focus on the one piece and say, “it’s hopeless”, instead look at the picture on the box and know it will look like that.

Stay in for the long haul and you will reap the benefits.  Stay strong and carry on.

Suck It Up

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When it comes right down to it, you breaking out of the mold and going after the goal is a matter of choice.  You can beat yourself against a wall with all the uncertainties, with all the questions and doubts. But the only way the wall will ever be broken through and come down is by you choosing it to come down.

Henry Ford said the above quote featured in the picture, and it is extremely true.

We are our own worst enemies when it comes to indecision or making steps, and we have to get beyond the mental hurtle if we expect to move forward.

So quit making excuses, quit mentally beating yourself up, suck it up and take the first step.  You can do it and you have to, or nothing will ever change.

 

No Regrets

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It’s hard making decisions, at least important ones.  Do you make the move you’ve been thinking about?  Do you stay where you are?

Do you take a chance and go after the new job, or stay in the one you don’t really like?

Do you go back to college for the degree you’ve always wanted?

These are not easy questions, and yet we are faced with many of them throughout our lives and much more.  Often-times I think we get so stuck in our routine and what seems comfortable (even if we truly hate it), that we fail to see there are other options.

If you are unhappy in what you are doing, or really wish you could chase your dream, stop thinking about it and do it.  It’s scarier in your mind than in reality, and once you take that first step, the rest will follow, one after another.

You don’t need to see the top of the stairway to take the first step.

Breaking the Habit

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When we think of habits what usually comes to mind?  Good things or bad things?  For me the typical bad habits come to mind: workaholic, biting your fingernails, etc.

But in reality the bad habits that we have, that I have, are more subtle usually.  We don’t notice that we’ve been a little short with our friends or spouse.

We don’t see the habit of ignoring our children’s request to play with them.

The habit of over-sleeping and missing out on having your quiet time.

These are the “bad habits” that get overlooked, but need a closer look.  We need to break bad habits.  Not just talk about them.  I am preaching to myself here as well.  It’s easy to get caught up in the right and wrong game.  I think, well I don’t do this, this, or this, so I guess I’m pretty good….wrong.

I need to constantly be striving to develop good habits in every area of life, personal, family, work, and every other area.

Look for the small little habits, and break them. You can do it.

 

So Selfish!

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I am discovering something as of recently that I honestly wish wasn’t true.  I am discovering I am selfish.

I spend a lot of time thinking about myself, of thinking what bad things are going on in my life.

It’s an unhealthy and debilitating thing to be selfish.

I don’t want to be that way, but it takes work and diligence to break the chains of selfishness, because it likes to hold on and not let go and yell at you how right you are, when in reality you are wrong.

I don’t want to be selfish, but I can’t snap my fingers to make it go away, and me saying that doesn’t make it go away, it takes me deliberately choosing unselfish actions, again and again and again, until it is habit, until selfishness dies completely.

It’s a work in progress.

Missed My Monday!

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So I missed my blog post yesterday.  First time I’ve missed a day in close to 6 months.  But I had a good excuse really…

Got a chance to have a mini weekend getaway with my wife.  I suggest everyone do this on a somewhat regular basis.  Drop the kids off, and go spend the night somewhere with your wife.

Get some food you both like, have a drink and talk, real talk, reconnect.

Start planning it and quit reading this. Serious.

If You Could Do Anything?

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What is it you’ve always wanted to do?  Chances are at some point you’ve sat around with your friends, spouse, boyfriend or girlfriend and went around answering the question “if you could do anything what would it be?

It’s easy to sit in the comfort of your home in good company and laugh about the different answers to this question.  I myself have done this.  But have I done anything else with it?  Or was it just a fun conversation and nothing more.

The truth is I know what I would love to do more anything else, but I’m not doing it.  Yes I can argue I am making steps towards it which is true, but there are many steps I’m not taking.

I am extremely rationale, to a fault much of the time.  And so I immediately let thoughts like, “oh that’s just not realistic” jump in  right after I dream big.

If me or you ever wants to step into that dream life, we have to stop rationalizing and making the list of why we can’t.

We can do it, and we have to if we  expect to hit our full potential in life.

So don’t rationalize your dream away, make it happen.

Don’t Lose Your Way

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It can be easy to lose our way sometimes.  Life doesn’t have very clear road signs.  Rather than a clearly marked paved highway, life is much more like blazing out a trail in the wilderness.

There are trees that have to be cut down, rivers to be crossed, mountains to go up. And that’s just for starters.

If you’ve ever had a dream you know it’s not easy to see it fulfilled, especially if you have a busy life.  Distractions are everywhere, some of them legitimate.  But regardless of what stands in between you and your dream, stay focused.  Once you start to waver and get off track you are heading for a dangerous collision.

Your goals may not be reached by the original means you started with, there may be different detours you have to take, their may be obstacle you never imagined, but keep at it, and you will reach it.

The Four Walls

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Have you ever felt like the walls are closing in?  You sit in your apartment, house, or whatever your place of residence happens to be and feel like the walls are literally creeping in closer and closer?

We build our box and stay in it, but we find our box is boring.  We claim its safe, and keeps out the craziness of the world, but in fact, the craziness of the world isn’t all that crazy, in fact it’s much more interesting and important than many things trapped in our four walls.

Life can be overwhelmingly mundane if we allow it to be.  Between bills, work, juggling a family, college schedules, laundry, dropping kids off, picking kids up, grocery shopping, facebook notification, tweets, and whatever else vies for our attention, we find ourselves in a dizzying whirlwind of nothingness.

We look up and find ourselves wondering if we can get out of the cycle we are in.

Actually, yes you can.  It takes work, its not easy, but break out of the mold, do the difficult things, and explore, have fun, laugh.  Go explore places in your town or city you haven’t been before, go to the lake, take the kids and camp out.  Do that ‘bucket list’ now, not “someday”.

Our lives need fun.  We have many responsibilities in this life, and if we don’t balance it with periodic episodes of fun it will drive us crazy.  So go have some fun today.